Appreciated or understood

The complete combination, but hard to find, that deserves looking for in the long run. What do you want more from a dating partner - to be appreciated or understood? It is a difficult question because relationships often focus on extremes and cannot meet both needs.

In an ideal situation you should receive from your partner balanced manifestation of support and understanding, and evidence of love and appreciation. When there arises a gap between this two, as usually seen, springs the differences embodied in frustration, self-blame, reprimand or other.

British studies revealed that for most women, the notion of an ideal relationship associates the level of communication with the degree of affection in the couple, suggesting that without understanding the needs, meeting them is not possible.

Many women say they would like to be understood by men at the beginning of relationships, and appreciated further, but often what happens is the opposite. Sometimes, it does not happen at all. When these do not match in the dating process, the relationship stumbles because of too little communication. So, what to do? What matters most to you? Dating someone who makes you feel loved and appreciated or one who understands you, but with a cold hard to manage?

Friday, 17 June 2011 22:37