Communication style defines dating success

The secret to quickly develop successful skills and gain confidently can be reduced to some simple truths. The question of what makes a person sociable and helps him to successfully integrate into society and find dating, has been the subject of dozens of devoted studies, and they all come to the same conclusion.

Here is the simple way to answer a simple question: "What helps a guy to look cool?" Although this study was conducted on men, the same rules are valid for women.

To participate in the study, researchers selected a group of men. The first were those who in the past could get well acquainted. They are often invited to visit, they liked the reputed women who were everyone's favorite, and problems with acquaintances they had not. These guys were often dating beautiful girls and between singles were the winners.

In the second group gathered those who were not the winners. In truth, they were underdogs in the field of dating. They desperately wanted to meet girls, but they are either afraid to invite them for a date, or always got turned down. Since both groups met the same lovely man, the researchers set out to find out what makes some winners and others losers. They spent with these men a series of tests.

The first test took place at a dance club. Men were asked to simply invite someone to dance. Girls (which are specifically instructed) had to answer: "I do not really like to dance." Results: Hearing these words, men who have enjoyed success with women, laughed and replied something like: "Me too. Let us then sit down, girls are not perceiving words as a denial, but simply as a statement of fact. Their less fortunate brethren answered inarticulate "oh-oh-oh," "a-aa", "th-th-th", etc., and they surrendered. In short, the losers interpreted as a refusal the answer of girls in the introduction.

Between the "winners" and "losers" were able to identify two major differences.
First: The "winners" were not expecting failure. If they are refusing to dance, they are, and without batting an eye, continued to talk and continued friendship. After all, if you expect failure, by all means you will get it.
Second: The melody of the conversation was flowing. Hearing the song for the first time, you will first perceive a melody, and then pay attention to words. This is true in a conversation when they first met. The "winners" melody was obtained enjoyable, because they quickly responded to the questions of the partner, and thus did not allow a painful silence. Giving the answer, they said not one word, but more details. Their voices were in good spirits. His whole appearance, they showed that they talk and familiarize with a woman - things delight. In addition, in order to show their companion the interest, they have finished many of his answers with a question.

React faster, longer answer to get acquaintances.
We encourage you to master the style of conversation like a winner: maintain a high level of energy, avoiding long pauses, speaking longer or giving detailed answers to questions, but at the end of the conversation with other party, ask him questions.

Monday, 28 March 2011 08:47