Dating doctor: essential questions

Imagine you are part of a dating event with a potential partner for the first time. In the process of getting to know each other you talk about this and that in order to discover the most substantial details about your dating acquaintance. Still, without some preparations you might slip some valuable pieces of information that are supposed to make the difference between a casual dating and the start of a prosperous relationship.

Therefore, to master the language of dating you should think in advance about the most significant questions to ask on the first date. Moreover, in order to deal with essential questions, you should take advantage of the compiled hints on how to make the conversation comfortable and casual.

Listen at least as much as you speak.
Some people would describe themselves as skillful speakers, because they can speak endlessly. Still, the ability to speak is just one part of the equation. The best conversations occur through a constant exchange of opinions, thoughts and beliefs. Imagine the conversation as a tennis game in which two opponents play the ball against each other. Each player comes to hit the ball, but no one can pull the ball by itself.

The onion should be peeled carefully.
To know someone is a slow and cautious process and takes a great deal of time. Sensitive issues should be avoided until there is a relationship build on love and trust. For the incipient encounter there questions are rather out of place and an erroneous approach of the dating situation.

No place for exuberance.
While some struggle with their shyness, others tend to the other extreme. If a person in no time reveals too much about itself, it might create the impression of false intimacy. Moreover, profound conversations about ex-partners and other topics have high potential to bond fears and worries.

Prosperous relationships come with real interest.
Great conversations take place when both companions pay attention to the words of the other one. The curiosity to receive information and to ask questions in between keeps the conversation dynamic. Avoid, at all costs, to let your eyes wander distant around the environment. This is not only rude, but also gives your dating companion, the belief that the encounter is mentally already over for you.

With this advice in mind, you should devote them to the specific questions for the initial phase of the connection. Perhaps you have your own questions, if not, you can try those bellow.

1. What person has influenced you the most?
2. Which things make you laugh?
3. Which place in the world you like most?
4. Who is your best friend? What do you like about him / her?
5. How do you spend your Saturdays at the most?
6. Which qualities do you like most on a person?
7. How were you as a child?
8. Have you - or did you have - a nickname? Which is the story behind it?
9. Who was your favorite teacher or professor? Why?
10. Have you already found your life purpose? What is it?

Wednesday, 26 October 2011 22:59