Decipher your dating partner

Online dating has just brought a spark into your life! You have met someone special through a dating website and want to advance to the next level of a lovely relationship. But your dream partner sends mixed signals: though you have had a great first date, you cannot get any kind of reaction besides an acute silence. Our pieces of advice will help you find out whether your date feels passion or rejection.

Though your acquaintance seems so far away, certainly he or she has left a mark you can interpret. So, check again the written messages, think about the voice tone on the phone calls and recollect the body language, eye contacts and the subjects you have debated over the dating event.

Hidden signals
Have you already written many messages over online dating or / and via text messages? Then you probably still have access to it and can get a detailed picture of a sign of passion.

If your online friend has written to you very quick and also very courteous, then it is clearly closeness. However, if you have received only sporadic news, rather short, impersonal or dilatory, this indicates refusal.

Attention: Text messages are missing some important sources of communication like facial expressions, gestures and the spoken words. So, misunderstandings can occur so easily.

Body language
If you have already met your online acquaintance in person, you had the chance to study its body language. Some intense eye contacts are clear and positive signals that suggest attraction.

Attention: Just on the first date, however, you and your counterparts are insecure and nervous. So, your date might not like the direct look into the eyes because she is shy or cannot deal well with intense eye contact.

Words of affection
Whether on online dating, on the cell phone or face to face you can often tell by the voice of your dating counterpart, if he or she tends towards you. All you have to do is to listen carefully.

Attention: Of course, someone can insinuate or simulate an angelic tone of voice, but an actor reveals its true intentions sooner or later.

Relationship patterns
Each person has different dating experiences and relationship patterns, which can unconsciously be projected onto the other. Detrimental interpretations of the same dating situation are therefore inevitable.

For instance, a red rose at the second appointment for one person already can be a sign of eternal love but for other person can be only a nice gesture, since most of people do not know the language of flowers.

Affection or rejection
Do you have to deal with contrary signs or are you unsure on how to interpret the signals? Then you should address that. Through communication, you can resolve your confusion and gain clarity about the nature of the feelings.

Make him or her aware of the colors that depict your relationship from your own perspective and formulate a message such as: "I have really enjoyed the time spent together, but I do not know if you would like to meet with another occasion!"

Communication: The base of a relationship
If the other whishes not to talk to you in the future, you should understand that as a clear rejection. Even if it hurts, it is advisable to draw a line. Take goodbye with one last message and continue the search of potential contacts through online dating or traditional dating.

In the first place, if you want a friendship to grow into a partnership, you should learn to know people. This way you will not only better perceive the other one, but also create a transparent image of your perspectives, desires and expectations. Only then you will have a guarantee of not only affection, but you also create the foundation of a true relationship.

Monday, 30 January 2012 19:58