Ethics of the correspondence art

The usual exchange of messages on online dating can prove to be the spark that ignites a love story, a happy marriage or an exciting novel. To master the art of correspondence your messages must be defined by words like courtesy, interest, humor and kindness. On dating sites, as much as in the real world, there is no place for arrogance, pretentiousness, complexity and mystery. Smart and pleasant people, with displayed background, can very well stand out and attract potential partners.

First message must indicate a distinctive type of mind able to jump of the page and dazzle in the eyes of the receiver. To do that your literate message must demonstrate that you paid attention to the details of the profile. Unique messages separate you from the crowd and boost your chances because those are the live prove of desire, carefulness, attraction and hard-work.

As a general rule, on dating sites people often tend to, as usual, to overstate their social status, so be prepared for such inconsistencies. The hierarchy of topics that you should talk about can be built under the scheme: general issues (mood, weather, week-days, week-ends), exchange of views (relationships, sports, cars, music, literature), personal information (career plans, wishes for a future partner). Of course, this scheme is very approximate and clear patterns do not exist.

Be active, show a genuine interest, and do not be afraid to take the initiative. The transition from duty posts to frank discussion on the concerns of personal issues on online dating might take several minutes. The main idea is that you must be able to feel the mood of the interlocutor, asking not abrupt, untimely and too personal questions, while trying to gather as much information as you can.

The optimal duration of the correspondence depends entirely on the interlocutors. Ones fairly exchange a few words, other need to contact a few weeks. Sometimes men immediately offer to meet; this is not always evidence of misconduct, but rather a confirmation of their desire to meet you, as well as the manifestation of confidence. There is nothing wrong to want to meet after a brief correspondence, just keep in mind, most importantly, the general safety rules.

Sunday, 17 July 2011 10:20