From virtuality to reality

If you are actively communicating on an online dating network, there are times when you certainly have a desire to meet with someone from your buddy. You may be communicating for a long time, perhaps only recently met. All this does not matter when approaching the moment of first dating. Even if you think you know everything about each other - do not forget that the online dating is a deceptive thing. How much whatever was said during the video chat, you can never be sure until the end, what this man really is.

It happens that on the picture is almost impossible to imagine how a person looks like in reality. In addition, Photoshop is now not only owns the lazy. You can learn a lot about a person by his voice. If you have already decided it was time to meet, exchange phone numbers to begin with. But this also should not be in a hurry. Absolutely a stranger to give the phone number is very risky, you do not know how it is adequate.

Communicating by phone - this is a very important step before the first meeting. Phone conversation will help you understand how a person thinks "real time". Voice, accent, manner of construction proposals - all of this say about a person in one conversation more than a week of virtual communication. In addition to the phone for such purposes is very convenient to use the popular program Skype. These calls are free and can allow you to chat via webcam. And you not only hear but also see his companion.

Where should the appointment take place? This should not be very noisy, but a crowded place. Dating to nominate the best during daylight hours. A good option would be a cozy cafe or restaurant. It is not necessary to agree on the first meeting you or at his home. Should observe common safety measures, not forgetting that in fact this is a stranger. You must be sure that you can at any time freely to interrupt your dating and leave. Of course pretty stupid to sit in someone else's car. If you think that there is absolutely no threat, and you still agree to "ride" - call directly at your new acquaintance to their loved ones and give the number, color and model of car, as well as where you're going to go around. If your new acquaintance is adequate - he will understand.

If the first meeting would be too long, you will probably only get negative emotions. Ideally - the first appointment should last about two hours. This time is enough to make a good impression. If you enjoy socializing, then the following dates you can plan longer.

How to behave? Be yourself. So be careful about how to look attractive. Most people are attracted to qualities such as confidence, sincerity, smiling, friendly, good sense of humor, the internal heat. But do not try specifically to joke, or trying to act like something unusual. Just think in advance what the positive qualities you have, and emphasize them. Do not forget that your partner probably is nervous, just like you. Take it with understanding.

What to say? Better during the first dating to discuss the neutral topic, any common interests. About it both of you will say it is easy and fun, and when the communication get better, it will be easier to talk to more personal topics. If you feel that the meeting failed to make contact and does not work - do not worry. Smoothly complete the meeting, and further communication will improve. If your partner, too, felt uncomfortable, you are likely to cease all contact by mutual request. And maybe a little later, try to meet again.

In any case - do not worry. That does not mean that your other virtual friends is not worth dating. And even if you will not have a romantic relationship, you may just become good friends. Keep looking, and good luck to you always smile!

Thursday, 28 April 2011 09:42