From whom the first step

From whom the first step From childhood, parents instilled in the growing up girls that, if a boy sparks their spirit, the first step to do is in any case indecent. Many have grown in these instructions, many have absorbed it unseemly and even if the chosen one appeared on the horizon, the timid young ladies had no choice but to drop the chance because of the embarrassment. Nowadays, some parents still live after the principles the long gone years, despite the fact that the dating world and rules of the game have changed dramatically.

The young ladies have become easier to get acquainted with, especially if they are on the other side of the screen. Taking the first step is easy, as with online dating neither he nor she, in fact, none do not need to know each other. Simple messages with painless questions like "Hello! How are you doing? " are sent daily by thousands through dating networks. If earlier acquaintance happened, most often, because someone liked someone, nowadays the easiness with which people can exchange opinions, ideas or thoughts provides multiple reasons for communication.

It might be difficult to discover the interests hidden behind the messages from the other party, but if you start with online dating things get quite simple. There, the boundaries are erased, and nobody will be surprised if she wrote the first message, than in real life, where the first step to do is a lot more complicated. Stereotypes, for some of us, are still quite firmly seated in our heads. For example, a friend of mine, whose life was on schedule: home-work-home, saw what she thought the other half. Where? Of course the answer is a facile one: at work. Once stood in front of her with questions like: "Which are the rates?", "Is it appropriate to make the first move?", "What would the colleague say?", "What if I dare to open, and he says no? How can I look into his eyes after that?". In general, she spent some time in doubts and torments, until I prompted her to action. The last argument was a favorite phrase of mine: "Better to be sorry about what happened than about what did not." She decided to write him a message to his email address, in which she told about her interest in him as a man. Pressed the button "Send" and it seemed that the heart has stopped. But he answered, and after some time they met outside the walls of the company. The story has a happy ending, but the question still remains "How much are men willing to ensure that women are the first to show interest, to get the first step done?" After all, traditionally a man is a hunter, that is what he really is, or he should be (?) in order to win.

After I talked with friends or just random buddies, I realized that women are now the first to show interest, and men do not mind if a beautiful half takes a step forward. Many, on the contrary, even like when they are overwhelmed with such interest. Perhaps they just enjoy the attention, and for women, this step can be very heavy. Of course, many men before took initiative, and tormented by doubts they understood that the first step is not easy. But nobody should ignore the sounds of the heart when it comes to the chance to approach the person whom you have waited the entire life.



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