Online dating: break the ice

In the world of online dating, there is a very fine line between a little presentation of you in order to attract attention and an open exaggeration that might discourage potential contacts. This kind of problem goes hand in hand with other questions: Who should make the first move? When do I write about the best of me? So, to make are most of dating online, you should find the right balance.

Dare to jump in
You already know the situation: You see an attractive online dater on a dating network, would like to contact him or her, but just do not know how to start. Keep in mind that in this case only things like an excessive self-promotion or an intrusive behavior are completely out of place.

Just use your first contact to politely, but confidently communicate that you are interested and would like to learn more about him or her. It is preferable to abstain from sending messages like "Hi", or "Do we know from somewhere?". They are uninteresting, annoying and get, in most cases, no response.

Discover a common ground
Check out the full profile and precisely refer to the unique details which have piqued your interest. Talk about common interests, hobbies, favorite books or movies, and thus emphasize the attitudes, feelings and thoughts you share with each other.

Finally, you should finish the message with a "quite" question like: "I would love to hear from you!". You might also tell a few things about yourself, a few things that might interest the other on the basis of its profile. However, keep it relatively short and do not overwhelm your online acquaintance with too many private details or too many questions.

Take the time know each other
In a discreet manner use the various options of the dating website to find out more about the others. Send them selective questions that on one hand might encourage them to think about themselves and on the other hand subtly indicate whether a relationship with you is generally important.

Stay calm
If there comes no reply, you should keep your head on the shoulders. It is best not to ask why he or she does not take the time or interest to respond. Such behavior is deterrent, intrusive and unsympathetic.

The checklist in case of success
- Take a walk on common interests.
- Make nice compliments, but do not push the limits.
- Do not ask too many or intimate questions.
- Answer with honesty, listen with patience.
- Accept a "No" for an answer.
- Do not expect quick or emotional reactions.

If you come to understand the best strategy, you will have all the chances to fulfill your love quest with online dating. Good luck!

Saturday, 11 February 2012 13:28