The hunter or the victim

World of dating is a jungle with built laws, written and unwritten rules, every kind of suppositions, questionnaires and checking. Often, these patterns guide us, unconsciously, to look for a potential partner, and they unnecessarily prove to be the best choice.

We acknowledge that, no matter how open minded and modern society would be now, men are those who assume the role of hunter. They seduce a woman, enrage and conquer her interest, after they let her to take care of the rest (ergo keep their interest alive in the dating). It is a primitive theory, however, at a more careful behavioral analysis, we find that things in reality are a little backwards.

One dating expert suggested in one of her books that the woman is, in reality, the hunter. Since when she enters a room or in a social context, she scans, reviews and weighs the potential partners. After she scrutinizes male characters, she turns to potential rivals. And, according to these two elements, it starts or not the seduction. Even if men are those who are said to take the initiative, women act, intuitive and psychological level, first, in this aspect.

And we are not surprised at all by that. Think how many times you have done the same. It may be a dating party, a lunch in town, a social gathering with known and unknown. Frames are ideal for studying the "supply" and to set the availability to be "hunted". Hunting is a game of power, of course, but it takes only a little attention to notice that it occurs, usually under the auspices of the pulse availability and femininity. What do you think? Who is the "hunter": the woman or the man?

Friday, 3 June 2011 11:54