What we seek, who we seek

What we seek, who we seek All singles in all stages of their life go looking on online dating or classic dating to discover dates with a particular strategy? If so, which are the ways men and women contest in the search of love?

The personal approach
Faithful eyes, dark hair, a bit daring: One look and you have already succumbed to this type of character? Or you surrender when it comes to charm, long hair and some cute freckles? You meet someone on the street, in cafes, on dating online or in the office and think: "Just what I'm looking for!"

Perhaps you have just drawn a parallel between your ex-partner and your current dating target. Are we really able to see through? A woman, a quest scheme; a man, a smart recipe? And: Does our strategy also lead us to what makes us happy?

The range of choices
Our dating blueprint is inherently based on several factors. First, we naturally seek a partner who is a good choice in terms of evolution. The "softer sex" finds attractive a man that radiates strength and can offer security. The "stronger sex" wants a woman who is healthy and attractive.

The dream of perfection
Psychological studies say that both men and women own a common ground when it comes to the important values: Both want someone who is intelligent, friendly, loyal and reliable. Those who possess these qualities are probably interested in an honest partnership.

Small discrepancies between the mates might indeed provide some spicy flavor. Usually these offer less potential for conflict but common ground and lead to happier relationships. But there is always more behind the search for the perfect counterpart. What other factors satisfy our taste and inspire our dating quest?

What is the role of early binding
The early binding of a person to his / her parents might play a central role in its dating patterns. The parent-child togetherness is not only a model for other attachments, but also strengthens expectations about how the subsequent connections will proceed in our dating life.

A child who was raised with love and stability, might perceive himself as a lovable and worthwhile person. It will also encounter others with benevolence and affection.

... and what impact this has on our dating strategy?
The child's attachment to the parents over time transfers to a life choice. Psychologists assume that the attachment styles, which are observed in infancy, manifest themselves at the romantic level on maturity. Those who were educated in childhood with love, care and support should also manifest those heart reflexes later.

The list of requirements
All the contacts that we have throughout our lives, characterize our dating requirements. The very first love is very catchy and has the ability to influence what partners we have later on. Often, it represents the ideal image of a partnership, and the subsequent relationships can change our ideas and desires as regards the closeness.

One-way street: Change the approach
Most often our perspectives and desires that correspond to the notion of "the One", "the other half" or "the dream one" are not what makes us really happy. Behind the picture of a person who does not fit the profile on the first look, can hide a man in which lies the true love.

You should not let yourselves solely guided by your expectations because wonderful individuals can always be discovered on online dating or traditional techniques. Take another look and walk on another path which is not dictated by a pattern of the past. Let yourself surprised by this path and most likely you will love it.



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